Sexy Remark

Boy.. I  love politicians and bureaucrats. Their timely controversial statements provide fodder for my blogs. The recent statement was made by the Chairperson of the National Commission for Women at a function held by a women organisation. She said and I quote "Boys pass comments on girls terming them sexy but sexy means beautiful and charming. We should not see it in negative sense," When she invited the ire of women organizations and others, she did not apologize but clarified that her remark was made in the broader context since she was addressing the youth and that it did not apply to strangers or roadside Romeos who use the word sexy to tease girls which is condemnable. Is she right or wrong?


The Merriam Webster dictionary offers 2 meanings 
1: sexually suggestive or stimulating : erotic
2: generally attractive or interesting : appealing  ( eg- a sexy brochure) 


Things are changing and so are the meanings. We adopt a lot of things from the West, but not their tolerance to Freedom of Speech. The song 'Sexy and I know it' is a chart buster and was performed live by the group LMFAO (Laugh My Fucking Ass Off) at the recently held Grammy awards. 

 If someone called my blog sexy.. I wouldn't sulk 'cos its sexy and I know it. 

(International Women's Day is celebrated on March 8 every year . Thousands of events occur on this day and throughout March to mark the economic, political and social achievements of women. This year theme is - CONNECTING GIRLS, INSPIRING FUTURES.  From my side, I am dedicating all the blogs for this month to woman oriented issues)  

What women want?

"Women demand mobile phones, they are not demanding toilets... Sanitation is the much more difficult issue," said the Rural development minister Jairam Ramesh at the launch of Asia-Pacific Regional Millenium Development Goals Meet. 


His loose comment may have left many uncomfortable and may also have forced him to offer subsequent explanations, but the fact of the matter is sixty percent of people practice open air defecation in a country which has 700 million mobile phones. 


Women demanding toilets are far and few and may appear as headlines. In Madhya Pradesh’s Betul district, tribal woman Anita Nrrae’s insistence on having a toilet at her in-law’s place had not only compelled her husband to take up the issue with the panchayat at his village but also made Sulabh International adopt Anita’s village for its “Total Cleanliness Drive”.

But it is not a paradox as Mr Ramesh says. There is a difference between a need and a want.  A need is something you have to have.  A want is something you would like to have. That's basic concept of economics. . A child needs to have proteins, carbohydrates, vitamins and minerals. But it  wants to have toys and ice cream.  Do we blame the child and shame it in public or give him what he needs? 

Does the State need to perceive the needs of the people or blame the people for not realizing their needs? Whose responsibility is it anyway? 

Now that the we have had all this shit...  we should now demand for toilets to flush it down !!

To be or not-to-be ... raped?

Not very long ago, a senior police officer in Andhra Pradesh went public stating that women in flimsy and fashionable clothes provoke rape. In his favor, one could argue that he meant sheer and clinging fabrics, low-slung jeans, low-cut tops, bare midriffs, short skirts and liberally applied make-up. 


So, do clothes make all the difference between an uneventful occasion and one which could provoke a sexual assault?  If so, can we find the best Anti Rape Attire?


From my side, I humbly propose  TIGHT JEANS . Yes.. it is an ideal anti-rape device, a kind of chastity belt. And when I say tight jeans, I mean the really tight ones ..  the ones that most teenagers wear, wherein they have to  wriggle their bottoms to get into it anf they would require either Mom's, sister's or their boyfriends to help them get out of it.   Most PYT ( Pretty / Poor Young Things)  have bad attitudes and nerve and very little else... but wearing tight jeans is ingenous. I personally believe tight jeans is an excellent idea to prevent unsolicited sex. 


Let us compare raping a female in tight jeans versus one in a saree. Remember the good old Bollywood, Tamil or Telugu  movies when a herione had to be raped, she will invariably be in a saree.  It was so damn easy for the villian, as easy as unwrapping a birthday gift. Sometime even unwrapping a gift may be more difficult.. you may need a scissor or paper knife, but not for raping a woman in a saree.  It was just wham, bam, thank you ma'am types. BTW, I can't remember any recent movie with rape scenes. Wondering what the reason could be ..  an increase in the willingness quotient? Back to my case. moreover saree has a lot of mid riff and chest show. And minus safety pins, its just a miracle how a saree stays there. So definitely a saree has more theorotical and practical reason for inciting rape.


Once upon a time, long long ago,  women wore a bikini-top along with an angavastram tied around the waist and not very long ago, women in Kerala did wear just a blouse and mundu and yet we heard of no such atrocities. Clothes have no role to play when the mind is sick. But sadly our cops think otherwise. 


Meanwhile here is my take 

If rape is inevitable, enjoy

If rape is evitable, wear tight jeans 


FYI - International Women's Day is celebrated on March 8 every year. Thousands of events occur on this day and throughout March to mark the economic, political and social achievements of women. This year theme is - CONNECTING GIRLS, INSPIRING FUTURES.  From my side, I am dedicating all the blogs for this month to woman oriented issues.

Dying in a lamborghini

(Pl note - My sympathies for the family of all the deceased. May their souls rest in peace)


All of us have heard of this one - 'Money cannot buy happiness, but somehow, it’s more comfortable to cry in Mercedes Benz than it is on a Bicycle' 
Crying yes.... but dying ??? Is dying in a Lamborghini any more consoling than dying in Maruti mini?

When a 28 year-old  son of a 1600 crore real estate tycoon died last week when the Lamborghini he was driving crashed at high speed in South Delhi.... it didn't appear so.  The car rammed into a 50 year old cyclist was also critically injured. The cyclist is now out of danger but may be paralyzed for life.  

                                                                                                                                                          
The Rs 2.25 crore worth Lamborghini Gallardo LP550-2, with Valentino Balboni rear wheel drive was manufactured in July 2009 and was a 250 unit limited edition piece, one of its kind in the entire country. The car can reach 0-100 in 3.9 sec flat and the victim was driving at 150 kmph. Tragically he didn't even  benefit from the cushioning of the cars highly effective airbags, since he hadn't belted up. 


Ghastly accidents involving sons of high profile businessmen and policians driving fancy set of wheels and fetish for high speeds are becoming common . Most of them have been 'hit-and-run' kinds. Looks like some of them become 'hit-and- die' type 


Barely a day fter a Lamborghini crash claimed the life of a young businessman, another speeding car crushed to death a senior executive of a multinational financial firm and his friend in Delhi who were out for their morning walk. This time it was a Swift Dzire involved in the accident registered in the name of the wife of an IFS officer, an undersecretary in the MEA. 

Yesterday, a 18 year old boy's birthday celebrations turned tragic when the BMW his friend was driving crashed into a road divider. He died though he was sitting behind while his friends were only injured. thanks to the airbags. 


Quite recently  my hubby and I were walking in our neighborhood road, when a speeding car brushed past us making us skip a beat. Had a driver lost control of his wheel, we would have been under the other wheels.  


Advisory boards are plenty - 'Don't drive fast . don't drink and drive'. etcetera. Tests for drunken driving are in place too,  but what do we advise those innocents walkers and  by-standers? 

• Don't walk on the road? 
• Wear helmets and armor and walk like an Egyptian? 
• Or believe in destiny and/or miracles? 

Any thoughts people? 

Filmy awards

This is that time of the year when there are awards and awards night .. Oscar, Bafta, Grammy and our very own Bolllywood awards. Live from the comforts of my couch, I got to watch the 57th Filmfare awards yesterday. 


Began with the customary Red carpet  - who wore what .. and then discussions on who was hot and who was not. 


The anchors Shahrukh and Ranbir were a delight to watch. They were mostly spoofing each other's films. Must say, Shah Rukh is quite a sport. Loved the joke he made on his own home production Ra-1, where he brought all the Ra -1 merchandise to the stage including the cap, water bottle, G-1 panty and ended the act by saying the only thing he didn't see in Ra-1 were the tickets!!! I also liked the one where Ranbir asks Shah Rukh whether he noticed his different looks in Rockstar for which SRK quipped.. "Yes .. sad.. sadder, saddest" 



Vidya Balan was clearly the Queen of the night scoring over the Khans and the Kapoors. Though her performance in 'No one killed Jessica' was just as good, she got accolades only for being 'Dirty' And she managed to get Shah Rukh and Ranbir get dirty as well. .. Chiffon Chameli and Leather Laxmi ( see pic)


Ranbir rocked by taking away both the Critics and the Popular award for best actor for Rockstar.. deservedly so. The Akhtar family collected a lot a awards too for Don 2 and ZNMD.  Wonder whats with the women behind cameras.. why do they dress up so hideously? Am talking about Zoya here..  .. but remember Kiran Rao, another Khan's wife?  


Deepika performed something more like a musical gymnastic  .. Edgy and provocative.  Kareena's dress seemed tacky and her tummy a little bumpy when she did her usual '2 left feet style dancing' . Priyanka was at ease and must give it to her for still staying on top with the younger lot, when her counterparts are busy nursing tiny tots.


Over all,  films are about entertainment and so are the awards night expected to be .. entertaining. 

Matching bottoms

I remember during my childhood days, when salwar kameez were not common in South India, people used to take the kameez material to the cloth ctore and say  'Give me a matching bottom'.  ;-) .. Over here I am referring to matching bottom as in real ones.


Most of us have heard that couples are usually matched by the sense of humor, height, social parameters etc. I read somewhere the most consistent matching parameter between compatible couples is the 'ass size'. Couples of the same ass size flock together

Decided to check it out first hand. What better occasion than Valentine's Day and what better place than a nightclub!  Of course theaters would also have been a suitable place, but the anatomical part in question would have been obscured since sitting would be inevitable at the cinema. Incidentally do you know the current term to assess the success of a movie? - it is 'bums on seat'.  Though Don 2 or Ra1 had Shahrukh, it still could not put in more bums on seat. Mr Khan probably need to avoid movies with numbers Good that 3 idiots had Aamir and '3' has Dhanush and Kolaveri. 


Let's come back to my research on the 'Deeply-in-love' and the 'Bored but staying together' (read married) couples  There was I, looking at people's tushies when they were peering into each other hearts  I know it sounds weird. But here is what I found. Yes.. there was significant matching. Older the couple, more the matching.. 


Now for the conclusion

When it comes to choosing, it seems we choose 'ass' wisely as possible. 

Bike or Barbie .. what say people?

My hubby has got a new interest, thanks to which I have no access to remote control till 11 pm. He has started watching TV serials... No..  not the      'Friends', 'Two and half Men' comedy sitcoms. He has started watching the 'Saas Bahu' kind of Hindi serials on Sony TV.  If there was one on romance between a middle aged doctor and an intern 18 years younger than him, there was another on adjustability issues of a newly married middle aged couple - all emotional drama which would interest only the female clan. I was shocked. I had always thought that these serials were for housewives or at least women. Men watched wrestling, soccer or cricket in India. After some introspection, what shocked me more was my stereotyped thinking. I always thought that my views were egalitarian but still I categorized serials into men and women based viewership. 


I guess this stereotyping starts right from childhood when we played with toys. Traditionally games and toys were intended for children to prepare themselves for their future adult roles -  girls were given dolls and houses and boys took to cars and balls. Today boys and girls will eventually be one anothers peers, employers, employees, romantic partners and co-parents. This gender apartheid has to go. Hamleys, a popular British toy store recently announced that it is abandoning the separate section for boys and girls and instead will have signs which say what type of toys are sold on each floor, rather than suggesting who should play with them. 


Balls, bikes or Barbie, it's time we let the little ones choose. Let's teach our sons to cook and clean and our daughters to be emotionally stable and financially independant. Last decade saw women entering the male domain, now its the turn of the males. The modern man grooms, shops, cooks,  and most importantly ... is sensitive.

 Women love nice guys 

 Nice guys finish last!